Grief Relief with Violet and Mimosa

Grief has many faces. Sometimes it arrives loudly, with unmistakable loss. Other times it moves quietly beneath the surface—grief for what was, what changed, or what never came to be.

In this episode, Jessica shares a deeply personal reflection on working with Violet and Mimosa as plant allies during a season of profound grief. What began as a joyful, playful relationship with violet slowly revealed itself as something more—a gentle yet powerful balm capable of holding both sorrow and softness at the same time.

You’ll hear about:

• Violet’s ability to soothe, delight, and support the emotional heart
• Mimosa’s gift of strength through softness and its reminder that flexibility is a form of resilience
• Making space for grief without becoming lost in it
• Learning to feel fully while trusting that joy will return in its own time

This episode is an invitation to honor grief—whether it’s capital-G grief or the quieter, unnamed losses we often dismiss—while allowing yourself to be supported, held, and gently guided through it.

If you’re walking through a tender season and feel called to additional support, Jessica has created the Release & Open Ritual Bundle, a trio of plant-based allies designed to help you soften, feel, and move forward with care. The bundle includes:

• Melt Loose Leaf Tea to calm the nervous system and release tension
• Grief Relief Elixir with violet & mimosa to support emotional processing
• Heart Chakra Oil to nourish and strengthen the heart space

✨ You can explore the Release & Open Ritual Bundle here:
 👉 Purchase Here

You are held. You are stronger than you feel. And with the right support, healing is possible—one gentle moment at a time.

Transcript

Speaker: 1:34

Every spring, I look forward to the time that I get to spend crawling around picking one of the most delightful flowers I know. I can't even speak about violet without a huge smile coming to my face. It is such a happy, delightful flower. It is a powerful lymphatic and has so many wonderful physical benefits that it offers and probably speaks to my needs, I am just so drawn to how effervescent the energy is just light and bubbly, brings a smile to my face. And I will tell you, even though it's not the most comfortable thing, to be crawling all over the yard, looking for the tiny, low growing flowers, I do it with a smile on my face. And by the end of the session, my cheeks. Hurt because I've been smiling so hard and it's just been a fun thing. So every spring I infuse a vinegar with violet flowers. My favorite is to do a champagne vinegar. It just feels decadent and fun, and it seems to match the delight that the flowers hold. And I've used the medicine in. In the past as lymphatic support. It's very tasty, so I like to mix it into a syrup and add sparkling water and just enjoy. But this fall when I found myself experiencing many different levels of grief, violet was the one that I turned to. If we think about the emotion of grief, then the opposite could easily be joy, and we could use something that brings joy. And delight to soothe a grieving heart. And yet it's something that I had not worked with before. I, it's almost as though I wanted to keep Violet as that purely playful, exciting, fun, joyful experience, and didn't want to mar that image that I have with the grief I've felt, and I will say I think it's probably, you know, another life lesson that the plants teach us. Even though Violet is an extremely delicate, small little flower, it absolutely has the power to hold at many levels and depths of grief. For me personally, and people that I've shared it with, it has absolutely been the balm that has been needed. So when I was going through a really hard time, I called on violet and added in mimosa, and we know because I have waxed poetic about mimosa before the strength in the softness that mimosa brings as a gift. Mimosa is another plant that is known for bringing happiness and joy and a smile to your face, just seen as light and delicate and lovely, and oftentimes in my personal opinion, overlooked because of that. And we also know that the mimosa tree has one of the highest tensile strengths of any tree, mainly because it is able to bend and move in a storm in high winds without breaking. And that particular gift is one that I reach for often because my very stubborn, rigid. Capricorn self gets stuck in a structure that doesn't allow a lot of wiggle room. And I have to call on mimosa to remind me that that structure is my own making and it can be unmade and that strength comes when the structures that we build can sway and adapt to change and turbulence. So Mimosa and Violet came together in a formula that I'm calling grief Relief to act as not only a balm to the heart, but almost like a scaffolding when I felt like everything inside of me was crumbling and falling away. Being able to work with this medicine helped me feel held together. It's important to acknowledge your feelings and feel your feelings. This is something that I have worked on for a long time and I have a lot of brilliant teachers who help me through that. It is still not my second nature. I want to bottle up any big feelings and soldier on and hold it together and be strong. And what I have found is that just does not work. It ends up hardening my heart. It ends up taking me away from the richness of the present moment. And honestly, it usually ends up prolonging the pain of whatever it is that I'm going through. So in this season where I seem to be wading through grief, capital G, lowercase G, losses of loved ones, dreams, crumbling, relationships, changing, expectations not being met and a whole other number of experiences that just leave me grieving what was and, oftentimes what could have been. Historically, I would say that is silly. That is a silly response. Life goes on. Cycles end. Things change. People change, get over it. And while that's actually still part of what I tell myself, I have been able to work with this grief relief formula with violet, with mimosa to sit in the feelings of sadness and grief to honor the fact that I didn't want these things to change and to give myself, even if it's just a few moments of just feeling that fully and then also being held by that remedy to know that. I won't be stuck in that feeling forever. I will be able to move through that grief and that sadness and come out on the other side. My heart will heal and I will be able to experience the joy and lightheartedness and delight again. It doesn't have to be right now, and I don't have to expect that of myself, but then knowing that it will be there and I will have access to that helps me stay present to all those feeling things that I would really rather not have to stay with, right? Like they're just uncomfortable. But I will say in working with this remedy and giving space for being present to the uncomfortable feelings and the sadness and all of that, I have noticed that even when I'm just deep in it, it is not as deep as I thought. It would be, it is not as dark as I feared it would be, and every time I don't break, every time I finish the big cry and dry my eyes, I feel an accomplishment of sorts. I made it through again. And that goes into the bank of proof that I have to call on the next time I get the opportunity to risk something, to take a chance, even though it might end in heartache to dream. Even though those dreams might crumble. Because I now have proof that I can make it through and that I can come out on the other side better for it. Ready to continue living to the fullest with the understanding that that means experiencing the full spectrum of feelings and emotions. So for you, dear listener, if you are walking through a time where your heart is heavy and full of grief. Again, if it's capital G grief, if it is lowercase grief, we can still honor it and we can call on the support that's available to us. And I would like to humbly submit this grief relief formula as some support for you where you can feel held and safe to be present with your grief to acknowledge the pain to honor the moment that you're in. You are held and you will make it through.

Speaker 2: 12:40

I do wanna acknowledge that understanding that you're dealing with grief and that you need to work with how to handle it is a big step in itself, and oftentimes the hardest part. My attempt at supporting you through the process is through a bundle I created called the release and open ritual bundle, it consists of a bag of melt loose leaf tea, a bottle of the grief relief elixir, and a bottle of the heart chakra oil. For me, especially when I'm working with big emotions or painful emotions or anything that I really would just rather shove down deep and lock away. I have to access it regularly, and that access has to feel doable. so this bundle was born because what I can do is I can brew myself a cup of melt tea and sit peacefully, even if it is just for the five minutes that it takes me to drink the tea, knowing that I'm offering a combination of herbs who are coming in to soothe my nervous system to help me let go of the tension I've been holding. I love this tea because it is delicious and it is beautiful, and also because it works. It is a powerful tea. So I have found that when I do drink it, I do start to relax, even if it is against everything I think will happen. That relaxation puts me into a place where I am better able to take the next step to care for my heart. With the grief relief elixir, it is pretty versatile. It is an Oxy Mel, so there is a. Vinegar and honey mixture basically. So it's sweet and sour. It's pretty delightful on its own, honestly. It also can be mixed into the tea. So again, if I have zero time or tolerance for an act of self self-care, yet I know it will serve my highest good. I can easily brew that cup of tea, put a few drops, or a dropper full of the grief relief elixir. In it and sip slowly. That right there in itself is an incredible gift to my body to be able to start to heal, continue to do the work of letting go of the tension of the heartache, and truly supporting me in moving forward. The heart chakra oil is delightful and it smells lovely, so that's always a plus. I have it in two different forms. One is with a roller ball top and one is with a dropper top. So if you get the roller ball top, it's as easy as just applying a few swipes over the heart space. To make that action a little more emotionally meaningful. We can start to envision offering a balm literally to the heart and recognizing that the herbs and plants that come together in this oil really support the heart and the heart space. They help to soften the edges of grief and pain and heartache. They strengthen your emotional heart. And I think that is probably my favorite part about the oil. Just knowing and feeling that little shift. Maybe I have a little more power than I think I do. Maybe I will be okay. I will get through this. And so small actions with powerful plants can make profound change more possible. It can help with getting through the time that it takes. We always hear that time will heal a broken heart, and it does in fact help. But I have also found that using that time in a proactive way, taking the opportunity to offer yourself support on a daily basis. Shifts the way you move through time because instead of wallowing and waiting, you are actively caring for your body, for your heart, for your soul. So if you find yourself grieving again with a capital G or a lowercase G, and you might need some support in moving through that, acknowledging it, feeling it, and letting it go, then I'd like to offer the release and open ritual bundle to you. With the intention that you be completely supported in healing, that you remember that. You are much stronger than you may feel, and with the right resources, you are completely capable of doing amazing things.